The Birth Spectrum

Births occur on a hugely ‘unknown’ basis. I think this is what can utterly terrify some people into opting for the controlled atmosphere of a hospital. There is no danger in a hospital of something going terribly out of control…and if by some mad chance it DID, well, then there are doctors who are trained to react in just such occasions within easy reach.

For other people, the unkown of birth can mean a triumph where one could never have been foreseen.

A friend of mine was relaying the story of  her sister who had an unneccessary C-section with her first child. This same woman switched caretakers, adopted the Bradley Method of childbirth, and vaginally birthed her 2nd and 3rd children. Despite her proven ability to birth, this woman was talked into birthing her 2nd and 3rd children in the local hospital where she was forced to undergo all the medical interventions deemed ‘necessary’ by her attending doctors. For her 4th and final child, she chose to homebirth. Despite all their best preparations, her 4th child came too quickly and was delivered by his father in the family’s living room. The midwife arrived to the cries of wonderfully healthy baby boy who had been welcomed into this world in the most natural way possible. This woman feels like a warrior and thanks to the huge ‘unknown’ of birth has reclaimed her birthing rights. She no longer doubts her ability as a woman to bring a child into this life…and that is wonderful.

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Filed under Birth Preferences, Birth Stories, C-section, childbirth, Homebirth

4 responses to “The Birth Spectrum

  1. What about the women who did not get to the hospital, had their child at home and had bad events and lost the child — she can “no longer doubt her ability as a woman to bring a child into this life …”

    Anecdotal stories are great, but to be valuable, we need to include all of them.

    In some Tibetan rural areas, immediately after a child is born, it is place on top of a blanket, set on the ground inside a hut and left alone for 24 hours. If it survives, they raise it, otherwise the carcass is chopped up and fed to the birds.

    There are many ways humans deal with control, death and attachment.

  2. Of course we need to remember both sides of how this story could have gone…or others like it. However, look at the CHANCES of something going wrong in a natural, pre-planned as a homebirth, low risk pregnancy such as the one above. The chances are slim that something will go wrong enough to put mother and baby at risk. Now, put this story in a hospital setting, and your risk goes UP! Up due to the medical intervention that is meant to REDUCE that very risk!

    I think the important thing to remember about this story, when used the way I have used it, is that this birth was already PLANNED to happen at home. She had been receiving proper prenatal care, she was overseen by a competent and certified midwife, and she was a ‘low-risk’ pregnancy. Midwives will NOT attend high risk homebirths…THAT is potentially unsafe. This was a normal birth that allowed this woman to reclaim her birthing power.

  3. peaceliving

    I have to tell you, I find your posts fascinating although I’m done with childbirth and my two boys were both born in the hospital in a very standard way. It’s so interesting reading and learning about different ways of doing things. I wonder what I would have done if I had come upon sites like yours years ago…

  4. Good point, NB, with all those given filters, it does make it much more realistic. I wasn’t thinking about all those pre-filters to selecting. But I wonder, how many people get into the “I am going to reclaim my birthing power” mentality and don’t listen to warning signs. And I must say, “reclaiming birthing power” seems a bit dramatic (of course, I am just a man), but if it were really something that is “stolen” (otherwise, why would you reclaim it) then tons of women have lost their birthing power and I am surprised that new age healers are advertising on post-lost-birthing-power therapy. Think of all those poor women with those big holes in their hearts from this robbery.
    Mind you, I support much of this, of course, but I am cautious about idealizations and false pop-psychology.

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